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Learning How to Regulate Your Emotions

Are your emotions responsible for carrying you through theday, or do you have complete control over them? Unfortunately, when it comes toour emotions, they can become a weakness on our journey to find success. 

Emotions happen when you respond to the way somethinghappens and how it makes you feel. Your emotions can be either good or bad, butwhen building your path to success, they can do more harm than good. Whenyou’re happy or sad about something, you will either smile or cry. If somethingdoesn’t go the way you planned, you may either blame someone or something, orcomplain. 

Complaining and blaming are your two worst enemies when itcomes to reaching your goals and accomplishing what you set out to do. Thesetwo emotions allow you to deny responsibility for what happens and is used totry and shift the negative energy away from yourself. 

The Problem with BlamingOthers

Blaming is simple. When something doesn’t go your way, youpoint the finger at someone else, because you don’t want to suffer theconsequences of what happened. It’s easy to shift the blame to someone else.However, it doesn’t help you find success.

If you want to be successful, then you have to takeresponsibility for the things you do, even if it’s wrong. Being responsible foryour actions shows your maturity and proves that you are capable of taking thegood with the bad and moving on. When something goes wrong, you can’t just runaway, you have to deal with it head on and take care of the issue. 

People who blame others for what’s going wrong in theirlives, isn’t a team player. They are too busy thinking about how they will getout of the next situation. At some point, when it happens again, the fingerwill be pointed at you and you’ll be thrown under the bus. 

The Problem with Complaining

Complaining is the other side of the same coin. It normallyhappens when the person who is doing the complaining doesn’t want to doanything. They would rather moan and groan and give excuses as to why theycan’t do it. What it boils down to is they are lazy. To hear someone constantlycomplain about nothing can be irritating and can quickly drain yourenergy. 

Being around these two kinds of people can be extremelydraining. They will only slow you down from being able to achieve your goals.If you stick around long enough, their negative emotions can start to rub offon you. Don’t let this happen. Getting through the middle to accomplish yourgoals is hard enough without the extra drama. Excuses do nothing for you, soyou need to learn how to deal with situations and react appropriately. 

Reactions vs. Responses

If you find yourself in a situation are you a person whoreacts to the situation or do you respond to it? When it comes to unleashingyour inner drive, it is better to respond than to react. For example, if, onyour way home from work, you witness a car accident. You realize that no onefrom either car is moving. What do you do? Do you calmly access the situationand take the necessary actions to keep things under control until theauthorities arrive, or do you run around in a panic and make the situationworse. 

If you were calm and collected and helped keep the victimscalm until help arrived, you responded to the situation. Your focus was on howyou could help. If you were panicked and frazzled, creating more chaos, thenyou reacted. You allowed your emotions to take control, which only made thesituation worse. This is what happens when you let your emotions takeover. 

When you respond to situations, rather than react, you areable to handle the situation. Your emotions take a back seat to what’s going onand you can maintain your sense of normalcy. When you react to situations, itonly works to enhance an already bad situation. Your emotions are out of controland you completely lose your focus. 

Learn to Control YourEmotions

In most situations, being emotional is a weakness. When youallow your emotions to take over, you don’t stop to think, you just react. Itcan make it harder to focus on what needs to be done. You need to turn yourenergy and concentration toward what needs to be done. You need to learn how toput yourself outside of the event and consider what would be the best approachto a solution. Doing this will put you in a position to better direct theoutcome of the event in a more positive way. 

When you are trying to find success, you can’t let youremotions become an overwhelming force if things happen or don’t go your way,Blaming, complaining, and reacting isn’t going to help anyone, especiallyyourself. You need to figure out how you can keep your emotions in check, andhandle challenges as they arise. The only emotions that you should embrace arethose that are happy and joyful after you’ve succeeded.  Thisis how the middle works. When faced with an emergency, hopefully you’llautomatically start thinking about what to do and how to help. This should bethe same way you think about your goals. When you’re in the middle, you need tothink about what you can do to help you move forward on your path. The onlydifference is that one situation is an emergency and the other situation willtake time. Think of your goal as an emergency and work your way throughit.